In life, people often experience a number of issues that impact their social life. Through experiences, individuals are in a position to understand and connect their experiences with a given aspect of life (Riley 34). For instance, one may observe the essence of undergoing formal education after he/she fails to secure a job due to illiteracy. On the other hand, people may relate the aspect of success with having undergone formal education and literacy. For this reason, many aspects can be linked to personal experience that an individual gets during his/her lifetime. This paper takes the responsibility of narrating a personal experience that fascinates an individual. Moreover, the work will discuss what one would learn from such an experience. Finally, the work will relate the experiences to the moral, political, and humanitarian impacts on the aspects of life.
Sheryl, a friend of mine, had been a good girl since her childhood. However, her behavior changed soon we joined college. Perhaps, the much freedom that she encountered in college was the cause of her change in behavior. During her high school education, her parents had restricted her from attending any social events, as long as they were not held during the day. For this reason, her encounter with many friends, mostly females, made her have a different lifestyle.
During the first week of our admission, Sheryl had been at ease with every activity. However, her behavior changed as soon as we entered the second week. The college fraternity had organized a first-grade welcome party. The party had been scheduled for the night. I could not miss the party. Sheryl had planned to enjoy the party. For this reason, she opted to try out the drinks that were being offered for free. She did not realize what was to come after that.
The fact that Sheryl had probably never tasted alcohol in her life was a fascinating issue for some of us. During the party, Sheryl got hold of almost all brands of drinks. Some of the attendants of the party seemed to enjoy the fact that the new students were in the process of getting drunk. Perhaps, they had other motives behind that. As a friend, I attempted to stop Sheryl from drinking too much. However, my efforts were not successful. Some of the older students threatened to beat me up in case I tried “anything stupid.”The most shocking thing was that Sheryl thought that I was planning to ruin her partying with others. Due to this reason, I was left with no choice but to leave her do whatever she was doing with her friends. Realizing that it was getting late, I opted to go and take a sleep.
The following day we were woken up by screams from the ladies’ hostels. On rushing there, we saw the unexpected; a mutilated body of a young girl, probably one of the students had been dumped next to the gate. On a closer look, the clothes seemed to be familiar. It was Sheryl’s body. Some of the ill-hearted men who wanted to take advantage of her sober state had murdered her. Such an experience had a fascinating effect on my perspectives regarding social life.
Impacts of the Experience to my Life
As a close friend and schoolmate, Sheryl’s death came as a blow to my life. I could not believe the fact that she had been murdered and that she was no more. The matter affected my life. For instance, I came to learn that some people in the society are there to take advantage of others in their weak states. I would link this case to the fact that some of the men at the party must have forced Sheryl to do something because he was drunk. Moreover, they had initially tricked her into drinking way too much. One of the most obvious reasons that I could associate the matter with is that the men must have tried to lure her into sex. Her attempts to resist must have made her encounter her life’s fate, which was death.
Another matter that I learnt from the experience was that institutions have the responsibility of protecting their subjects. In this case, the college should have taken its responsibility by recruiting security guards or party bouncers in order to prevent any forms of misbehavior. Moreover, the college administration should have set the parties at a particular time that is safe for every person who attended. However, that was not the case. The whole organization of the party was left in the hands of the students’ body.
Moral Conclusions Drawn from the experience
From the experience, it is prudent that society members have the responsibility to shape their behavior in compliance with the societal moral values and ethics (Williams, Robert & José 53). Sheryl’s acts of involving herself in immense drinking did not portray any aspects of moral values. Besides, her parents and I had known her to be a pleasant and well-mannered girl. Moreover, those who were responsible for her death portrayed negative societal values. It is not right to take advantage of someone because he/she is in a state that he/she cannot help him/herself. The act of taking advantage over Sheryl’s sober state was not ethical.
In addition, the experience clearly indicates the extent to which institutions give freedom to their subjects. Institutions have the responsibility to ensure that their subjects, students, in this case, are protected from such incidents. For instance, they could stipulate certain times when such activities would be held for the safety of those to attend.
Social Impact of the Experience
This experience can also be connected to the social being of the society. It is a good idea to socialize frequently for the sake of improving relations and cooperation within the community. However, the degree and extent of some of the activities that are regarded as socializing ought to be controlled and maintained. For instance, Sheryl’s case of drinking too much alcohol was a social activity that could have been controlled. The school administration could have regulated the number of drinks that were supplied to the party. Moreover, it could have taken the responsibility of organizing the party withy much consideration over the safety of the new students and others.
Socialization should be conducted with many moral and ethical considerations. Individuals are not expected to misbehave in social arenas at whatsoever costs. For the case in this work, it is prudent that most of the students misbehave during their free time. For instance, some youths and teenagers are fond of doing particular activities that are wrong, despite their knowledge that they are wrong. Alcoholism and premarital sex are two aspects that need prompt intervention in the society. For this reason, all institutions in the society have the responsibility of ensuring that the society members socialize in beneficial ways, as opposed to the unethical ways.
Humanitarian Significance of the case
The fate of Sheryl in the case signifies a lot in the society. Individuals have certain rights that they must be allowed to enjoy. For instance, people have the right to life. Therefore, no person should deny the other the right to enjoy life. The socialization aspect in this case led to the death of a society member. Sheryl’s social experience led to the end of her life. Irrespective of her state of soberness, she still had the right to live.
Another humanitarian significance of this experience is the fact that women should be protected from any form of harm and harassment from their male counterparts. Sheryl was harassed before she was murdered. The murderers took advantage of her weaker gender to conduct such deeds to her. It is the responsibility of the society, through the cooperation of the members and various institutions, to protect the privileges and rights of every member (Smyth18).
In summary, it is prudent that individuals’ personal experiences may have much significance to their lives. Exposure to any fascinating experiences may make an individual to develop certain ideologies regarding certain aspects of life (Thornton& Buck 13). Sheryl’s case in this paper made me change my mind regarding the attendance of social events, mostly those organized at night.
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