Define and identify two of the following barriers to effective listening found in the movie–this means provide/completely explain an example (only one of each will do—please label appropriately). You will need to describe the scene completely, share the conversation, and explain “how” or “why” it fits into the barrier you have chosen. (Filling-in-gaps, insensitive listening, pseudo listening, defensive listening, stage-hogging).
The barriers identified are selective listening and insensitive. The former is portrayed towards the end of the movie after Jack’s surgery when he was recovering at home. In that scene, the wife appears dissatisfied with the painting that was done in the kitchen when the husband comes to interrupt her and requests her to yell at him instead of the painter. He does not speak and uses a whistle to gain attention, and writes “I need you” on a board. Jack is selective because instead of listening to his wife’s outcry of frustration, he makes the situation about himself, nags the wife to shout at him instead, and cries for attention when he tells his wife he needs him. Although the audience may be sympathetic to Jack because of his situation, he is a selective listener because he pushes for his agenda, which is to get attention, instead of to listen to his wife’s frustrations.
The latter is demonstrated through his appointment with a lady patient who came in for a check-up after surgery. The woman felt vulnerable and sought comfort from Jack by asking if the scars would have a major impact, to which Jack responded by making an insensitive comment. He told the lady “you look like a Playboy centerfold, and you have the staples to show it.” To which he adds an insensitive chuckle. He should have read the deeper message and given the woman some comfort over her fears.
Define and identify only one of following types of listening responses found it the movie—define, explain, and provide and an example of your choice. (Silent, questioning, paraphrasing, empathizing, support).
The response identified was showing support. Jack becomes supportive of June, a fellow cancer patient when he chooses to forego going to the concert they strived so hard to attend. While Jack was driving in that scene in the movie, June requested him to stop, and he did. She wanted to live in the moment as opposed to rush to the concert, and Jack supported him by ending the journey to the concert and choosing to stay with her because he understood what she was going through.
Define, provide an example, and explain how a character engages in irrational thinking and debilitative emotions by falling privy to one of the following:
Jack engages himself in irrational thinking seen by how he chooses to distant himself from his wife according to a conversation he has with June. He expresses to June that he pushed his wife away and is unable to change that situation. Jack accepted that he did not pay attention to his wife and the sickness got worse. As a doctor, he has this notion of perfection in the work he does and the life he lives. Therefore, any form of failure is met with irrational thinking because he fails to believe that he is capable of failure. Instead of confronting his fears he acts out by fleeing and keeping distance.
There are examples of the following in the film: Equivocation (Ambiguous Language) or Euphemisms. Define and provide an example of one of them from the movie.
One of the doctors treating Jack uses the concept of euphemism. Later on, in the film, we realize that the physician failed to inform him that his tumor was growing bigger, and instead told him that it was not becoming any smaller. This indicates that he was trying to cushion the blow that the radiation treatment was failing, and he was required to resort to other means.
Explain, describe, and discuss two types of nonverbal communication found in the movie—be very descriptive—this means tell me what the face, mouth, nose, arms, etc. are doing to communicate a particular message.
In the scene where Jack makes an insensitive remark to a lady, she responds by looking at him, attempts to open her mouth to answer then sighs and looks down dejectedly. Even though she opts not to talk, we can tell that she has been disappointed and is slightly offended by Jack’s response. She was looking for some form of comfort and re-assurance and failed to get it from him.
In a different incident, Jack’s wife is seen engaging him in the hospital. She confronts him about being aloof about her situation, and Jack responded by staring blankly at her in silence as if he lacked anything to say. He seemed touched by his wife’s words by squinting his eyes as if to say something but is unaware of how to react to the situation.